Slashing tires? OP has been shown who values her and her happiness, and who sees her as worth less than momentary uncomfort. NTA. Don't just uninvite these people from your wedding; uninvite them from your and your fianc's lives. Who do they think they are? If this happened to me I would get a text or something admitting to it, take them to court, and bail on the relationship completely. Canadian? of abuse? Or do they just think hanging with your family is something you have to rush like a frat? Honestly, it is astounding that Tim is still with LW. Also tell the four muppets that it's 2022 and it is not normal to bully the man your daughter/sister/niece/cousin wants to marry. If OP had an actual spine she would have cut off her family after the slashed tires incident. He fights everything that's put in place to help him and rejects the idea that he's actually making things much worse for himself and for his relationships. So basically your family members thought it'd be funny to see him end up in a life threatening situation. Best of luck!! Thats it. Yep. Your family is driving the wedge. The first rule of practical jokes is that they should never have a victim. Tell him they're for his wife or next of kin. NTA. Press J to jump to the feed. Tbf I think she didn't know until it happened .. the men side of OP's family seem very toxic and misogynistic as well.. they probably won't include a "woman" in their plans Yeah. My family might joke around , but not once ever has my dad tried to drive off my bf/fiance/husband. Your family's version of what a "real man" is, is twisted. Your fianc doesnt need to prove anything to any of them. He needs to ends this before these monsters end up murdering him. Keep a lifeline out for your siblings, if they ever choose to break free of his gravity, but harbor no regrets for those family members who keeps themselves in his orbit. They are treating him like garbage. He could have died. This is no joke. Apologize to this man. Even bullying seems like too light of a word. You don't need them at your wedding and honestly? Like seriously, do you have any idea what it's like not be able to to breathe? Their own insecurities are on full display. Also making someone play chess naked is weird. NTA btw. Tires are fucking expensive as hell. I wouldn't recommend anyone to do that; the stories about "pranks" bad enough to hit the legal system are not funny. were not shunning her. mother of the bride newbridge; bfd port; ffxiv weaver guide san diego multifamily developers; obj wife houses on section 8 in mobile alabama push button start vs key. These are excellent words to throw back in their faces. You are NTA. Being in a good mood I went on a websearch to add some examples of that having happened. for months. As someone with severe asthma I am absolutely infuriated on Tim's behalf. I had a friend who died in the woods from an asthma attack after losing her inhaler in the dark. live happily now :). Or to respect that, for that matter. These aren't pranks. They kept calling him slow and soft but he has medical condition (asthma) but they think he's making 'excuses'. It could easily turn into manslaughter if the fianc died. No, Tim: No, you wouldnt. They were a collective bag of dicks. I wandered around saying "fucking men!" She's growing as a person and learning how to step up for her new family. They are just immature jerks. There is archaeological evidence which suggests that Neanderthals cared for their relatives with health problems: Neanderthals would be disgusted by this behaviour. Aita for uninviting my parents to my wedding; quad cortex neural dsp price; the forest fly command; python flush output; salvage car auction virginia; the book of psalms explained pdf; heineken hoodie; steel pipes suppliers in uae. Edited to add although YTA for letting it carry on I actually mean ESH. OP found somebody committed to her. YTA for ever allowing it to happen and if you continue to. This!! Unfortunately when you live with something for so long, it becomes your normal. ETA except Tim. Not slashing tires or stealing medication. I admittedly have had a few fights with my dad about how I think she treats me and my brother and sister. NTA, and get security just in case if they even try to get in, The men in your family are assholes. Its just a joke is just the typical response to make it seem less harmful and make the victim out to be exaggerating. Your family is horrible. You feel like youre going to die. Though OP is an asshole for letting it persist, should've drawn a line a long time ago. Youre supposed to protect him just like he is you, even if that means from your family. Timmy didn't drive the wedge between you and your family. Or the panic and other feelings all together when you feel you cant breathe. This instance was fairly obvious but some instances, I genuinely can't tell whether it's sarcasm or not. Privacy Policy. NTA for calling them out but you are TA for letting it continue this far. Tell them you are reporting them to the police for attempted murder and get a restraining order. Someone questioning their own sanity and ability to differentiate between harmful bullying and harmless Pranking. Hiding an inhaler? You think they wanted to hear he was FOR gender equality? I hated every bit of it. Plus wives will send your ass to the doctor. NTA - no matter what kind of person you are, no one should ever belittle you to "test" how you are. My/my child's/my friend's/a complete stranger's inhaler is empty/missing! How do they not realize that?! He deserves better than a spineless wife but thats just my opinion. There's no right answer. What kind of fiance would you be if you didn't stand up for him? They're being defensive because they can't imagine this ending in death. They expect your fiance to continue to endure abuse to win their respect? 283 AITA for uninviting my GF to a family dinner because she wouldn't dress modestly? He would be better off using the money to wipe his ass than spend it on her, Lol she let him pay the wedding and then invites him lol I hope stepdad cuts her out too, How directly the fare there so many NTA and ESH?`, Let me guess, most have some variation of "It's YOUR wedding!!!!". Not the husbands. Family should be loving, welcoming, and supportive first, and then if they have concerns about the way they see him treating you they have a talk with you about it. They will always treat your fiance like shit and like he is less than. I would go LC/NC with the lot of them. NTA. I think OP should have shut this nonsense down before the inhaler "prank" ever happened, and I'm almost inclined to consider her the AH for that reason alone. Honestly, Tim must really love and value your relationship to put up with all that. Like if NTA was like the golden buzzer in Got Talent, OP would still be NTA. Recently, I bought a new car which I use everyday and let my mom and stepdad take it whenever they need. Nick has thrown a complete uproar about not being invited to my bachelorette or bridal shower. ", Then why tf did you ask him if you knew he was gonna be biased lmao. I am not jealous of any person forced to choose between their brothers and a parent. You mean the spine that only materialized when her fianc couldve actually died after having already been viciously tormented for years while she apparently just stood back with the occasional protest? NTA and what they are doing is bullying and not playing pranks. im 90 down for no reason. This was them seeing if he would literally die. Fuck people like this and their asinine 'pranks'. NTA. What awful people. Let mom know your full feeling and the risks they took. NTA. If someone hid my inhaler, I would consider that attempted murder. Right now, do not pass go, do not collect $200. Could be either! The way your parents have reacted is worse. They could have killed him. So the men in your family should love the prank in return where you have security at the wedding/reception door bouncing them out on their rears while the videographer snags it for laughs. NTA. Ask them who was going to be the one to explain to his family if he died. Theyre bullies & bullies only learn when someone stands up to them. exactly. Likegrown ass adults? Good on you for putting your foot down. After I graduated my mom and I repaired our relationship and now are best friends. Keep asking why. This was not a prank. Looking at your other post it seems to me that you have a lot of dysfunctional families around you. Poor guy. Half the stuff they did could land them in jail if he wanted to press charges. Not only would I keep them disinvited, Id go no contact completely. Not only should you uninvite them to the wedding, you should go NC on the entire lot of them! Your mother is enabling the behavior by dismissing it and insisting you let it go. This thread has been locked by the moderators of r/AmItheAsshole, Comments are in random ordering and vote scores are hidden. Something like Am I being gaslit? Because thats all this post was. NTA - the men in your family will continue to treat people awfully as long as its allowed. You have every right to limit contact now that they have crossed that line. What if they show up trying to get revenge or prank him ruining your special day together (which we all know they would). After that she got really jealous of my relationship with my. NTA, the men in your family are full blown psychopaths. Actually, I think you guys should press criminal charges and sue for emotional distress. Do not invite them back! I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. I hope he realizes that unless you stand up for him and put your dumb ass family in their place - he should move on. Wtf ! These guys are bullies. Elope! But anyway once you said yes she should have felt morally obliged to go with you. Nothing is manlier than standing your ground and protecting yourself and those you love. The Homo Sapiens hid all their inhalers as a prank. He couldve literally died for a prank. They've done stuff like forcing him to play chess 4 times in a raw, secretly slashed his tires to see if he'd fix it himself like a man or get help like those "lazy" guys, They'd asked him questions like what joke he'd like to tell his future MIL, his opinions on abortion, jesus, gender equality etc. He was abusive in every way but was a master manipulator. They were testing your boundaries, seeing what they could get away with doing and when there were no consequences, they escalated until it culminated in a life threatening event. I dont know where you are in the world OP, but where I live slashing someones tyres would be a criminal offence. What a nightmare. They have intentionally tried to belittle him and make him feel like hes not welcome in the family. Once, when I was hospitalized, I was suddenly unable to breathe due to fluid in my lungs- thanks pneumonia- and it was one of the most terrifying things I've ever experienced. And I'd say their behavior is not funny nor normal. Exactly. It's helped me to learn how many families with addicts change to fit the addiction. Guarantee hes hoping youre that kind of person, OP. Those scars leave a mark. 1) I doubt she's using his real name. NTA. I would leave them uninvited and strongly consider NC for the future. Slashed tires and stolen inhalers aren't pranks, they're crimes. Hiding medical devices? Honestly if I were your fiance I wouldn't even want to marry into that nonsense. This is a serious condition and not something to prank with. I feel good because after years I have finally set a boundary for myself but I also feel sad because I always imagined my dad being there on my special day. I think the best thing you could do for yourself is to go no-contact with your father. Wtf ! Of course hes not going to tell you not to see your family anymore; that would be controlling and inappropriate. Bullies are going to bully, but at least if you elope, they won't have the opportunity and no one else will be asking you where your dad and brother are. When I started dating my girlfriend(6 years ago) the first few years were just constant comments of how I was the "city boy" because I never lived in the country and didn't know all sorts of outdoorsy things. Thats not pranking. Thats lets see how much abuse we get away with with the new guy so we can keep having fun being worthless bullies.. These are not pranks. YTA to let these pranks happen to him for way to long, Lol how was she letting the pranks happen? NTA, this is horrible. I would have brought the hammer after the first incident. The doctor in the hospital decided I was just a drug seeker. Cut these toxic shits out of your life before they kill someone. When I got engaged to my boyfriend who is a city kid who makes a living in the arts, they hugged him. a prank would be like. filling his car with balloons or something. That wasnt a prank or a joke, it was an act of cruelty. her mother very clearly is an enabler. He was my hero. Because if she has an asthma attack and is more than 3 feet from one, she will die. Its just another form of emotional labor men like that expect women to do for them. Your relatives arent funny, they are aggressive and harmful and your fianc shouldnt have to see them ever again, it is on them to realise the seriousness of their behaviour and make amends. I wouldn't want them anywhere near me or my SO. Slash my tires? Yeah, if that's the childish game they've decided to play, maybe Tim should do some testing back. Shes realized now that their behavior is way out of line and is standing up for her fianc and their relationship. Hiding an asthmatic's inhaler is cruel. This is bullying. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Pff too easy. Frankly, who cares if they respect Tim, the question is, does Tim respect them. I would have dumped OP and never gotten involved with this family if she didn't stick up for me. Welcome to the end times. Its fucking property damage! NTA OP, Stick to your guns. Conditional NTA depending on how you behave from now on. Definitely NTA!! Since I assume none of them are medical professional, how exactly where they planning on testing his asthma? Otherwise leave Tim and let him find someone that will respect him enough to not let her family torture. I got into the college I wanted to go to, but passed on it to go to community college at home to save money. Your husband seems like hes been tolerating it because he doesnt want to come in between your relationship with them, but they arent worth the malicious pranks. NTA a prank is a Whoopie Cushion not slashing tires. Fast forward to my graduation. NTA. If they can't see this then they're sick in the head! I would completely remove my fianc from any further contact with my family if I were her. Do not just uninvite them from your wedding, uninvite them from your life. Yeah, garage would make me think of parking too cause it's the same word in German, but it's sometimes just difficult to remember or think of the various names for services and shops as they either depend on US vs UK (or other places too) or are e.g. They also sound horribly insecure. NTA you are prioritising yourself and your mental health and thats the right thing to do. My stepdad and I have a very good relationship. NTA they are bullies and dont deserve to be near you or your fianc. I moved out and left them to take care of my younger brothers by themselves and went full no contact for years. I have asthma. Has still he come backOK I am calling the police..God I hope nothing has happened to him.. Congratulations on graduating, OP. Do not compromise on this, theyre irredeemable assholes. First, none of those "challenges" are typical of things men do and several are legit crimes. Dean and Kevin never had a good relationship because they never wanted my mom and dad to separate in the first place, they resented my stepdad and limitied contact once they moved out. Buy wedding insurance first, add the cancellation policy, then cancel so lost deposits are covered by insurance wedsafe.com (am a wedding planner). Starting a married life together is supposed to be a wonderful thing, it's not worth letting it get soured by people who's opinions don't even matter like yours does. They really need to understand that their action could have had serious consequence (luckily it didn't). They are vandalism, destruction of property, and attempted murder. Arent we trying to advocate for mens mental health? They all sound like the very worst the patriarchy has to offer and the fact that you are still in regular contact with them and subject the man you love to their dumb bullying is worrisome, to say the least. If you haven't already apologized for being such a coward that you let your family bully him to the point of actual danger to his health then I suggest you do so now. I was sitting down looking at daddy-daughter dance songs when I got the urge to just text and confirm he will be able to make it to my wedding. Also, are they the kind of people who can sit down and shut up? Its your responsibility to make sure your family members are NOT abusing your partner under the disguise of tests and pranks. Im surprised youre the first person to say all this. If you are serious about your fianc, I would ditch the family all together. Try to embarrass, or challenge his authority in front of them? Hiding an inhaler can cause DEATH. Thanks for doubling down, Dad. Definitely NTA. Your family has driven the wedge, not Tim. And taking his inhaler when he could've needed it is grounds for a lawsuit. Doesn't make him soft, The men in your family are obviously deeply insecure, if they feel the need to hide someone's medicine so they can get one over on the "college kid". He has asthma and they could have killed him the first time they took it. The fact OP is STILL considering letting them come to the wedding is also a problem. They are a bunch of nasty men and they have created the wedge with their ridiculous behaviour. Exactly that. 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